Oh JBird!
She’s entered “that” age.
The age of defiance.
The one where she challenges EVERYTHING I say …
when she decides to listen to me.
Her attitude has become (most times) exasperating. And reasoning with a 3 y.o., well, that isn’t really doable. I needed something concrete, something to help her (help me!) with her behaviour.
Thus the creation of the Ticket Store.
Items that can be bought.
During the week, Jbird has the chance to earn tickets for good behaviour (the kind of behaviour I need in the moment – listening, eating her ENTIRE dinner, staying in her room at night, etc.) and losses tickets for bad behaviour.
Every night, after dinner we sit around as a family and discuss how the day went and how many tickets JBird earned, or lost, reinforcing what behaviour resulted in the gain, or loss of a ticket.
On Saturday nights, the ticket store opens. JBird counts out her tickets and goes shopping. Every item has a different price.
I LOVE the ticket store because
JBird learns -
ALL actions have consequences.
Some Math.
When a ticket is added, or subtracted, we count out how many she HAD and how many she HAS.
About saving.
Items are “priced” differently. She can either spend 3 tickets on a colouring book, OR save up and, for 20 tickets, buy the Belle Barbie Doll. {I know she’s saving :) }
So far, so good and I hope it continues! She’s not fully “cured”, but her attitude and listening are improving.
What are your tricks?
I just heard about a method I might try with KB. It’s to motivate kids to take care of their responsibilities without incessant asking. Make a list of things to get done. Ours needs to include *practice piano *brush teeth *be in bed by 8:30 *do reading time ,…..whatever we need to get done that day. If she has checked them all off and is truly in bed on time, she gets a dollar for the day. Missing 1 thing? no dollar. On Saturday, she can spend her accumulated dollars at Spooners or something.
I like that idea. I may use it when my girls are older!
What a great idea – sounds like it’s very motivationally oriented too.
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It is, although she needs to be reminded that she can earn, or loss the ticket. Eventually, I think it will come naturally. Eventually.
Carolyn recently posted..The Ticket Store
That’s awesome! We used marbles–basically the same thing. Connor earned marbles and could spend them at the end of the week on things. We had a list of things he could spend the marbles on, but I like the idea of having a basket with stuff already. He’s 13 now, so I don’t think coloring books would work now! :-)
Thanks, so far so good. Fingers-crossed it keeps up.
Ticket store is a great idea! I’m glad it’s working (for the most part). :)
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For the most part :) Today she earned 2, but lost 1….
Brilliant! My 8-yos would be losing tickets as I type!!!
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Thanks, she lost one today :(
This is such a clever idea!
And oh my, the attitude is HARD work, isn’t it?
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Thanks. Adjusting attitude is hard and takes a lot of patience, on our part.
This is such a great idea! I love it.
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Thanks!
I love this idea and might steal it. It’s like bribery without the guilt!
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Oh please do , and let me know how it goes.